Aqeef used to be very fond of making friend, sometimes ago. I remember when we went to Green Park for a photography session on the first day of Eid last August when Aqeef kept chasing a girl and two Malaysian boys that older than him, who kept running from him while saying, “Let him chase us, don’t play with him”. Oh and don’t forget that very same morning at Malaysian Embassy during Eid Prayer, when Aqeef tried to make friend with two Malaysian boys that I guessed just arrived London (because they both still talking in Bahasa Malaysia). These two boys said, “Jangan kawan dia. Budak bodoh”.
That were the last things I can remember about Aqeef tried to make friend. Because soon after that ‘in a same day bitter experiences he had at embassy and Green Park’, he suddenly turned to a maturer little boy that doesn’t bother about making friend anymore. By soon, I mean really soon. Just few minutes after the event of chasing a girl and two boys that ran away from him happened, he decided that he doesn’t need that kind of ‘gedik’ friends in his life anymore. This little picture tells the story.
Still in his baju melayu, he decided to run and play all by himself. It was a tremendous fun in my heart actually. Honestly as a mum, I just couldn’t stand seeing my son being treated that way. But I know that kids, and their parents as well. At least one of them ‘inherited’ the habit from his parents. Who to blame?
Then times passes by. Aqeef recognises these faces that treat him badly, and he just doesn’t bother to be good to them anymore. He met them at few parties and didn’t play with them, met them several times while we were going out and never ever wanted to spend time with them.
It’s not that Aqeef has anti social behavior or anything because he has friends at school. There is a boy named Oli that treats Aqeef politely and very kind to him that Aqeef loves to play with. Then Leisya, Annabelle and some other. In my observation, Aqeef just couldn’t stand rudeness and he is easily irritated by gedikness, even in kids. And he just doesn’t like to be friend with kids that love to shout or play aggressively.
I am very keen with Aqeef’s decision to put certain qualities in his friendship valuation. That’s his right to choose. Just like mommy choose to stay indoor after finishing house chores rather than going ‘mokpeking’ or ‘mesyuarat tingkap’ around neighborhood.
You can choose sayang. You really can. Mommy absolutely has no problem with that.